“Relationships begin to weaken, then fail when we stop doing the things that it took to get them in the first place”

— T-Jay Taylor : Writer

Article Overview:

Most of the couples remember the romantic and hot moments from the times when their relationship just started and everything was fresh and new, including the love and the chemistry. But eventually, most of the relationships lose that spark, and the fire of their romantic love life starts to die. This proves that every relationship needs some special efforts and time to keep the newness and chemistry alive, even after decades of togetherness.

If you are also going through rough phase in your relationship, then here are 7 suggestions that can help you improve your love life.


1. Reinvent Your Relationship:

Countless couples eventually grow apart which makes their relationship dull and lifeless. They hardly talk about anything, be it their lives, kids or anything else. When such phase comes in your life or if you could see it approaching, reinventing your relationship becomes really important.

  • Try To Spend More Time With Each Other: To reignite the spark in a relationship, it is important that you try and spend more time together. For that you can take up a hobby be it gardening, salsa dancing or anything else that you both love.
  • Have Meals Together: You can decide that at least one meal of the day you both will have together no matter how busy you are in your professional lives or with your kids.
  • Plan Weekend Gateways: Sometimes the surroundings can do what you are unable to. So, try changing your surroundings to come close one more time.

2. Try Something New For The Bedroom:

“If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine; it is lethal.”— Paulo Coelho. Break the routine, by doing fun and interesting things.

  • Focus On Adding New Things And Elements In Your Bedroom: Try changing the décor to make it more cozy and romantic. You can try using fragranced candles and fresh flowers, etc.
  • Try variety in your sex life: Change your approach or positions to bring newness in your love life.
  • Focus on what excites your partner: Do what your partner likes and how he/she likes it. Be it foreplay or touching him/her in some specific way.

3. Show You Care By Doing Small Things:

“Some think love can be measured by the amount of butterflies in their tummy. Others think love can be measured in bunches of flowers, or by using the words‘’ But love can only truly be measured by actions. It can be a small thing, such as peeling an orange for a person you love because you know they don’t like doing it.”— Marian Keyes

  • Plan A Surprise: Surprise your partner by coming early from work or by helping her with household chores or in preparing the presentation. Such pleasant surprises every now and then can do wonders for your relationship.
  • Compliment Daily: By complementing your partner when he/she gets ready for the work or party, you can prevent you and your partner form taking each other for granted. Keep it simple and short, ‘lovely dress, honey,’‘nice hair’ and more.
  • Make A Date: The idea of date has always been a hit amongst the couples. So, plan time together for just the two of you. Hold hands, share meals, kiss spontaneously to make your partner feel special.

4. Figure Out What You Really Want:

With time people change and so are their needs and desires, so find out exactly what you want from your partner or what are your expectations from your relationship.

  • Be Honest With Your Partner: Discuss about the things that you don’t like and you like, about him/her or your relationship, with your partner.
  • Try And Treat Each Other As If You Just Met: Ask about your partner’s interests and likes and dislikes.

5. Plan Your Future:

Sit down with your partner and plan your future.

  • Develop A Shared Vision: When all your pre-marriage goals are achieved, it’s time to develop a shared vision to deal with the new issues and problems, be it about creating a secured future or deciding about kids’
  • Together Create A List of Things That You Want To Do And Places You Want To See: This will also help you plan your weekend gateways and live a life that you both want and love.

Article Summary:

When you spend more time together, talk about your dreams, do small gestures to keep your partner happy, the missing spark, chemistry and romance can show up immediately.

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