“Accept– then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. . .this will miraculously transform your whole life.”

–Eckhart Tolle

Is it possible to remain calm during a crisis?

 

What do you think? Can we really keep calm during a crisis? That’s a very good question.

I am talking about something big in your life that shakes your world.

By experience, I can tell you that I know it is possible.

You see, every feeling that we have is originated from a thought. The only ones who can choose our thoughts are ourselves. In other words we can choose the way we feel.

It’s known that our brains are trained to respond in certain ways. Still, we can retrain them to answer in more assertive ways to have better outcomes.

In most situations, we can decide how we will proceed.

Someone will ask, how do I remain calm if my world is falling apart?

Allow me to share something I lived almost three years ago, while I was writing my first book.

It was a normal Saturday and I decided to go out to do some errands with my son, while my husband was working.  When we came back, somebody had broken into our house and taken all electronics, jewels, documents and some other items. I was terrified!

Years of research, have demonstrated that when we are in danger our brains activate their survival mechanisms in order to get out of the situation. So, here I was, exactly in that survival mode.

I won’t lie to you: to feel fear, panic, anger or any emotion labeled as negative, is completely NORMAL.

Most of us feel that way at the beginning, and is healthier to feel it and let it go later, rather than repressing it.

After the initial shock, when we are safe, we need to think, evaluate and look for the “silver line.”

To look for the “silver line” means to look for what is the “good part” that comes out of the challenge.

Back to my experience, after calling the police, changing account’s passwords, making the report and other paperwork… I remembered that we had theft insurance! And that made all the difference in this situation.

The next morning my son was asking me, “Mom, what good could come out of this? You lose your engagement and wedding ring, you lose your laptop, you lose all the data in the computer, even your book, what in the world could be good about this?”

And I immediately thought and said to him: “We are ok, there was no violence, nobody was hurt and all that is important for me is here, my family.”

Usually when we face those huge obstacles is when we start reconsidering the choices we have made until now.

In general, a big challenge is a breaking point, from where we start making big changes in order to reorganize our priorities, live better and be happier.

Although it was hard to be without computer, it was time consuming to recover the data—fortunately I had a back up copy of my book, and it took sometime to find another laptop and get used to it, at the end, it was for the better.

How come? I have an upgraded laptop and iPad, I now value my family even more, and I have a more secure home.

The Lessons:

 

1. In every hard situation look for the hidden opportunity.

2. Be grateful for what you still have. Focus on anything you can find that is still with you. Even the fact that you can walk is something to be grateful for.

3. Accept what is, it is what it is.

4. Don’t resit to what is. Anything we offer resistance will prevail. We can argue all that we want and nothing will change back. We will just waste energy. Decide to use that energy to act over what you can do to about the challenge.

5. Visualize the best that can come out of the situation. If we keep thinking in the worst case scenario, chances are that scenario will materialize.

6. Remember that this too shall pass. No difficulty will be here forever. Within a year, our perspective and perception of the circumstances will be different. Just be strong now.

7. Take action about whatever you can do about the situation. It is great to visualize and hope for the best, still we also have to act. We have to make our best in order for things to happen. It is after we make our part that miracles happen.

I hope this post can help you to look for all the opportunities that are waiting for you concealed within challenges.

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