“The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest.
And the first to forget is the happiest.”

– Unknown

The Power of Forgiveness

 

Forgetting the pain that someone has caused might not be possible, but forgiving is possible. Forgiveness is important for your own evolution and growth as a conscious human being, as well as supportive to the one who has given you the pain.

Since is a crucial action to break free from burdens and begin to be happy, let’s start from the most basic concepts.   

What Means To Forgive?

 

  • The ability to completely acknowledge someone’s bad behavior; to free yourself from hate, resentment, and anger.
  • To let go of negative feelings and welcome a happier and lighter way of being.

Where Do We Start To Forgive?

 

The truth is nearly everyone spends months or even years holding onto past pains, looking for the opportunity to take revenge against people who have betrayed or hurt them.

And those feelings are completely normal, after all we are humans.

The trick is to recognize that those feelings are mostly hurting yourself and not the other person.

This will be your starting point.

It doesn’t matter if the other person deserves your forgiveness or if she/he even apologize.

The one who will benefit from your forgiveness is YOU period.

Steps to Forgive

 

1. Set your intention for the person who hurt you 

  • Focus completely on your intention, keeping the anger and pain aside. Think what you really wish for them. For instance, it could be that you want them to realize their mistake and learn from it or to find relief.
  • In the process of forgiveness, focus on a positive thought. Examine your intention for that person who hurt you and you will boost up the forgiveness process.

2. Be grateful for what that person has brought into your life

Under the pain, there is always an important lesson. Look for what that person taught you, and start focusing on the lessons instead of the pain.

For example, after being scammed, the lesson could be to be more careful of who you trust and who you don’t, or to listen your instinct more strongly and act on it when something doesn’t feel right.

3. Decide to see the person who hurt you as your teacher

  • Everything and everyone is a lesson. And the hardest lessons mean toughest teachers.
  • Want to forget your ex-spouse, sibling or parent? Put your attention on finding what they taught you. Did they teach you to bring out your true self? Or you finally realized that you stopped taking care of yourself or believing in yourself when you were with them?
  • Accept that everybody makes mistakes. Sooner or later, you will make a mistake too and will ask for forgiveness.
  • Every bad experience teaches you a lesson. That is how you learn to be better and stronger.   

4. Use the light switch tool    

  • Imagining a light switch is a great tool, and can be used any time to help in the process of forgiveness.
  • When negative thoughts come to your head, close your eyes and visualize the light switch in the “off” state. Now visualize turning the light switch “on” and replace that negative thought for something positive about the individual, or think about what that person added to your life in a positive manner.
  • Open your eyes and feel great about yourself and the decisions you have made.

 

Forgiveness is not something that can happen all of a sudden, still when you commit yourself to have a positive attitude, choosing to be grateful and accepting what they have done instead of being in denial, you will reach a point of forgiveness.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time, and I can say by experience that it’s totally worth it!

Use these tips to get you there faster, and if you want to see a different point of view about forgiveness, read Chapter 10 of my book Happiness Your 7 Mind Powers.

The best is yet to come!